Single high power diva’s will they ever get a man after their own heart? This question was the subject of a hot topic one day. The super-powerful mami with that big car, that overbearing job title that has some long words in it suggesting that the paycheck is equally long before the decimal point. Why is it that some of these “super-achievers” seem to have it all together, yet deep down inside they struggle with the fact that it is hard to get a man? That husband material kind of guy? She argues that she just wants someone to love her, not an equal paycheck. Why do men shay away from this woman?
There is the argument that whereas a man may hang out with all kinds of feminine friends he will eventually settle with the lady that “grew up” with him. Here growing is in reference to the chick that saw him and was with him when he had nothing and was with him through thick and thin. The other point that came across in the discussion is that a guy doesn’t want a mami who has already reached. He wants to be the knight in shining armor that will take her to where she is meant to “reach”. This mami who has already reached is not going to be wowed by any achievement of the guy. This then moved the discussion from not only divas, but that lady who has focused on her studies and career to a point she is satisfied and is now on the market looking for a man, between her late 20’s and mid 30’s, she seems to be having trouble finding that right guy, Mr husband material. The discussion then led towards a direction indicating that most relationships that start at a university level in early 20’s last longer because the couple have nothing together, graduate together and grow together.
BLOGGERS CHALLENGE: Whereas these opinions may hold validity, I don’t think we left having answered the original thought line. What are women looking for in relationships? What are the guys afraid of? How can she get that guy? What is a man really after in a relationship? Do guys in their mid-late 30’s also struggle? Consider a date already setup between Tracey and Joe; or maybe they happen to be in the same social setting (at a bar, friends baby’s party, whatever) both working class, early 30’s. Blog your response and paste the link in the comments section here. Read other peoples thoughts and comment on their posts. Let’s go for it shall we?