To some, a marriage that works is a fad, and to others it is a goal. Someone once asked me, “Why do you married people take it upon yourselves to tell the rest of us how to date and how to behave in marriage?” I was taken aback for a bit because I knew one or two people including myself who had been giving relationships advice even before marriage.
I told the lovely lady, “I guess it is because we learnt a lot in the journey, and now that we are slightly ahead, we can turn back and shine the lamp on the path that we used, you see our mistakes and things that worked and hopefully you won’t make the same blunders”
In many cases we don’t know what we are looking for in a relationship when we start dating. Just like my wife and I, we were just hanging out, like most people would. Then it hit us that we really enjoyed each other’s company, before we knew it we were best friends. And for five years we were there to support each other’s dreams and ambitions, even through the rough times. It wasn’t an easy journey, there were fights, breakups, make ups, cheating but all in all we remained friends. How did we get to this point where we have developed trust, openness, transparency and such faith in each other that we know when one is lying and when the truth is bleeding out?
After walking with several couples (more than 30) in their dating journey, we have seen some eventually get married and others break up because they realise they weren’t meant for each other. Some of those that marry have even come back for more insight on dealing with the “Monsters of early marriage”
Come and hear some of those secrets with you on the 8th and 9th of December 2012 at The Soluxe Club, Mbambane Road, off James Gichuru (the road opposite Strathmore, towards Fang Fang restaurant) during the #WhyDidiGetMarried #WhyWilliGetMarried workshop that has been organised by an amazing lady @Makosewe and the lovely @NairobiVIP team. This two day workshop is not only for singles, but for married and those dating as well. There will be several hosts on this day including Christine Minjire, Anthony Kagiri, Jennie Karina and Pastor Wa. Tickets are available online or email firstname.lastname@example.org.