Samantha, was sitting on the couch after a long day, cold coke in her hand. Aside from her daily office drama, her ex had called to try and make . As he went through her twitter feed, a BBM came in. it was a group message to the girls from Karen “check TV, now”. The cleaning lady had been around and re-arranged everything as usual. When she finally located the remote, there two ladies on the screen in mid-conversation. It was a simple set, two couches and a coffee table. She quickly checked the time. It was 8.50pm. This meant there wasn’t much time left in the show. She listened in.

“So sometimes you wonder why aren’t you attracting the right partner or why aren’t you attracting ANY partner? There are various reasons why this relationship thing may not be working for you. Some will tell you that you’re doing it wrong, others will tell you, you’re just not meant to do it at all and others may tell you other things that will make them feel better than you. Well let’s look at it more keenly and see what could be happening”

Personal Pillars” scrolled across the screen. The picture came back and the lady continued.

“Many of us have a hard time knowing what we want in life. When you go out there to look for a partner, the first thing we do is to spar with each other to come to know what we do with ourselves and where we do it. Most of us don’t know WHY we do this. As we delve deeper we find that it is even more interesting to find that personally we may not know what/who we are. It is important to have a system of beliefs that make up you as a person. Why do you do what you do? Why do it the way you do?”

 “Desired qualities” scrolled across the screen. She quickly replied to the BBM, “why didn’t you tell us about this earlier?”

“What are you looking for in your partner? I don’t subscribe to the theory that there is only one partner for every human in this world. I think Mr/s Right is who you want them to be. However, there are some desired qualities that you have of this person. Should Mr/s Right come along what are some characteristics you would look for? Respect? Attention? Fun-loving? It would be good to have that list somewhere that you can work on with time.”

Vision for the Future” scrolled across the screen.  Her phone beeped. She knew it was Karen replying the BBM, she always replied even rhetorical questions. She ignored it.

“When you meet this eye candy person, what is your dream with them? Most of us young people don’t like wasting each others time or being strung along. Much like in most work interviews you’re asked to talk about where you will be in 5-10 years time. It is important for many to know where is a relationship headed”

As “Where to look” scrolled across the screen, she read her BBM. “Only just got home. Thought you’d like it” The lady on the screen continued.

“A friend of mine, a business man, once said “I don’t go to TV or Radio to do interviews so that I can get visibility. I don’t know what kind of market I will get. I would rather go for a golf game and meet someone that I know can bring business”…  much like my pal, I would encourage that as the search continues, you determine where you will look, to get the better taste and quality potential Mr/s Right”

The show came to an end.

As the rest of the girls continued to talk on BBM, Samantha went to bed to think. Things were definitely going to change. 


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